Entries by CtC

How do I begin to put my life together again?

Find comfort and hope in the great promises of God. “Cast all your cares upon him, for he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7 A journey of 1,000 miles begins with a single step. Try to take it one day at a time and one prayer at a time. Allow yourself time for sadness – […]

Is our marriage even real? I feel like the whole thing is a lie.

Let’s broaden the concept: if this addiction were alcohol, gambling, or drugs and you hadn’t known until now, would you also feel your marriage was a lie? Addiction controls addicts – they build up a tolerance and dive in further so they can feel satisfied again. Can an addict still love and feel love for […]

Do I now have to lie and cover up this sin?

You do not have to lie, but neither should you be the one to share his problems. Take 30 minutes and write out some potential, hypothetical responses for different social situations. This way, you’ll be prepared if questions come up and avoid saying more than you intend to share. You may even want to practice […]

How do I manage everything I feel in addition to everything that is complicated/changed?

You feel hurt. You feel damaged. Therefore, step 1 looks inward: you need to take real, personal care of yourself. You should seriously consider finding a counselor to help you through this tough stage. Whether or not you choose to connect with a counselor, there are good resources available. Conquerors through Christ is constantly producing […]

Will I ever be able to be happy again? Where do I start?

These are wonderful questions for all of us to consider, not just those who are struggling with the killer we call porn. Without being too simplistic, this question can be answered with one word: Jesus. Psalm 73:25 says, “Earth has nothing I desire but you.” The Psalmist is pointing us to God alone for the […]

How do I begin to put my life together again?

You begin by focusing on the love of Jesus, because pound for pound and point for point Christ’s love is bigger than anything else. It may not feel like it, but it eclipses even the pain you’re feeling. Study, meditate on, and learn everything you can about this love. Do this day by day, step […]

How do I deal with discovering that my loved one is a porn addict?

A few basic ideas are crucial for you right now: Personal repentance: Make sure to consistently confess your own sin against God and against him. That will keep your heart tender and your spirit compassionate. Prayer: God changes things through prayer. “Confess your sins to one another and pray for each other,” James said, “so […]

Am I obligated to stay with a porn-addicted spouse?

This depends on a whole host of issues, so you’ll want to see a pastor for more specific advice. If you aren’t married, then no. You don’t HAVE to stay in that relationship. If you are married, then maybe. Did they cross the “flesh line” and physically cheat? Are they battling this sin with repentance […]